I'm probably one of the more obnoxious "feminist" on this site, and I'll be honest this seems silly even to me. It's a completely optional gender marker, who cares if it's a color traditionally associated with that gender. The symbol itself if already an arbitrary thing associated with women, it's not like pink is somehow more offensive.
Also the color really isn't bright. If anything it kind of fades into the forums gray. The blue used in the male marker on the forums stands out a ton more, and even then it isn't distracting or anything.
Please don't have kids to make someone else happy if you don't want them. Your mom will get over it. The other person isn't having to raise them, YOU ARE, and kids absolutely pick up on the resentment that inevitably builds when a parent never really wanted them in the first place.
It's just a bad situation for everyone involved, and everyone ends up miserable. There's a saying that applies. "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."
In uh, more cheerful baby news, I recently hit visible baby movement. Its weird looking down and seeing some alien chest-burster shit, but also weirdly endearing. Hormones are a hell of a drug I guess lol, and it's kinda cool having the extra confirmation kiddos still in there and doing okay.
Agree with all of this. There is nothing wrong with the existence of inside jokes, like the Strudel comic that runs, but it should be kept to places where people will get the joke, and it's not making people uncomfortable. A brand new user doesn't understand the joke, and posting inside jokes in intro threads just comes across as exclusionary. How would you feel if you went to talk to a new group of people and they spent that entire time laughing about inside jokes you didn't get? You'd probably feel unwanted and not come back.
Also, yeah, the pit really isn't a spam zone, and does show up on the front page. It was an April Fools joke, and should probably be left to die, as, again, it does clog the front page, and newer users aren't going to understand any of it.
A joke thread here and there is fine, but not when more than half the most recent threads are inside jokes, shitposting, and spam, especially when it's the same joke over and over for no real reason. I guess it might be a good idea to just exert some self control. Not everything needs to be a thread, and if there's already a major joke/shitpost thread going keep it to there, or, as suggested, PMs and skype.
I guess the moral is just be considerate of people? Just because this site is kinda small doesn't mean it isn't a public place. It's not No Fun Allowed, but you do want other people to be able to have fun too without feeling like they're facing some impenetrable wall of pointless shitposting.
I mean, I agree not all humor is everyones cup of tea, but that doesn't mean people should be punished severely for calling someone something dumb or all in good fun.
That said, what you describe Luke doing is absolutely not a joke anymore. It's just being a jerk. Plus would break the rules about not telling people to kill themselves, and the slur rule. (kinda off topic but maybe find better friends? i mean, half my relationship with my husband is jokingly calling each other awful things for laughs, and even i wouldn't put up with THAT)
There needs to be kind of a situational awareness, and an understanding of degrees of behavior. Telling someone to kill themselves, or using slurs is a lot different from calling someone an idiot, and punishing both the same is just going to piss people off or make them too scared to post anything that isn't glowing sunshine and rainbows.
I mean, I got that impression too when I joined up, and I won't say that impression's changed at all. This is a small forum and cliques do exist, as do the things that come with them like friend groups and inside jokes. That's just kind of the nature of the beast. I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing, just like any forum even without cliques it means you have to kind of scope out the culture, and adjust to it before joining the team full force. It's just kind of a thing. Even anon boards have cultures and in-jokes to them, it's pretty unavoidable.
I will also second the notion that the moderation does kind of interfere too much in petty shit. Like, absolutely interfere if people are being harassed, or sent death threats, or someones posting biggoted shit, but normal disagreements or calling someone something stupid like a jerk shouldn't mean immediate mod intervention, especially when it's really specifically ignored with some users. I've seen Biffboff get away with saying some horrible shit to people just because they're Biffboff when literally any other user would have been immediately banned or at least sent several warnings.
I know a lot of people who refuse to post even really innocuous stuff, like a differing opinion, for fear of being banned, or attacked for not complying with the weird culture here that refuses to acknowledge or handle any disagreement. And I know of several cases where people got pretty harsh bans over miscommunication where the worst was assumed for no real reason, myself included. I got banned once for calling a specific user stupid when I did no such thing, and I thought it was obvious I was referring to the course of an entire thread. Even my attempts to clear that up were ignored, which honestly still leaves a bad taste in my mouth, and is one of the reasons I'm not nearly as active as I used to be. Even if I had called someone stupid I'm gonna argue banning is a massive overreaction. Literally no other normal forum would ban someone over something so benign.\
I mean, it's not my forum. Kyo can run it however he likes. I just think it does suffer a lot of overreaction with some users, and favoritism with others.
Pretty much all the Gibli movies. Like, the animations beautiful, but they tend to be so dull in terms of character and story, or so seemingly random I just honestly cant find it in myself to think of them as anything other than "meh".
I did like Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind, and The Cat Returns, but even then they aren't my favorite movies or anything.
An actual The Last Apprentice/Seventh Son movie. The books are so good, and they'd make for amazing horror/adventure movies.
Don't tell me Seventh Son is a movie that already exists, it doesn't, that wasnt real, that was some fucked up fever dream of what happens when you let a horny hollywood exec whos never read the books try to adapt really good childrens horror to film IT WASN'T FUCKING REAL I REFUSE
Thought Oculous was a great horror movie despite everyone else hating it. Also gonna second the Jurassic Park movies, I watched the third one probably well over a hundred times growing up lol, and the second honestly wasn't as bad as everyone says it is in my opinion.
Aaand because I included a show in the other thread I'll include one here too. Mr Meaty. Disturbing? Yes. Entertaining? Also yes.
I'll take one if you'd please. Need to try something other than comic page to get back into drawing before I stop procrastinating on that. :y
Preferably only digital. I don't really have access to any other mediums at the moment unless I'm drawing in my day planner. :,D Otherwise I'm really not uncomfortable with anything I think would be suggested in a cf forum lol.
Doctor Who, and Star Wars. Can't stand either personally(hate Doctor Who more, honestly, but I'm growing to resent being drowned in a movie franchise I find mediocre as well), and get crucified if I mention that anywhere near a geek community. If you like them rad, but I'm not a fan.
Also not a huge fan of Steven Universe, honestly, though that has less to do with me thinking it's bad, and more to do with me thinking it's kind of wildly inappropriate for a kids show.
Also wouldn't really call Frozen a well loved movie. I've seen WAY more people hate it, than like it.
Well, I agree, but there is a difference between me calling my friend specifically something, and insulting an entire group of people.
So a specific case like Kelty calling a friend a jackass or something where it's clearly directed only at the friend and clarification (mostly through just asking the insulted party through a mod or pm if it's ambiguous at all) can confirm the friends cool with it is fine.
Someone calling a friend a stupid Christian, though, is using a group as part of the insult. Even if it's ok with the specific person it was an insult that inherently insults an entire group, and that should be a no-no.
Adopting an older kid and giving them a loving home is probably one of the kindest things you can do. If you decide to go that route Sea know you'll be making some kids life. :D (had a lot of friends growing up who went into the system late, and honestly it was insanely hard on them getting thrown from foster to foster)
And @Van Husk I congrats! I know you mentioned that you were expecting in my old baby thread, happy to hear you guys are doing good. :)
@spidar - Thank you! And yeah, I see it as moving forward, not an end. I mean, the same people said similar crap about marriage, and that turned out to make me a lot happier, not destroy my personhood or some goofy nonsense lol. :y
Respheal:inb4 quintuplets or some nonsense like that
I'm still convinced I'm gonna get two, try for a third and final, and have sixtuplets or something.
I actually was super anti-kids until I started babysitting, all super young kids too, which is hilarious because a lot of people cite that as a way to make you not want kids. They're just so fun, and weird, and the fact that I was around a lot of them (babysat for a family of 5 for 12 hour shifts where 4 of them were girls under 3) let me see how different they could be and realize even the more crazy ones just weren't that bad. Heck one of them routinely yelled what sounded like "FUCK" anytime she saw a fox in public because the pronunciation just was not there, and I literally had to constantly watch her or she'd destroy something, but even that just wasn't the hell a lot of people see it as. They're like tiny, crazed people who can also be incredibly sweet.
Husbando and I were planning on trying for kids in a few years once we get out of the godforsaken apartment we're currently stuck in, but I guess the universe had other ideas, and I got pregnant early. We're currently expecting our first kid, and honestly, even if it is early, I'm pretty happy and excited. :D I know it's going to be hard, kids take a lot of work, and with how normally frail I am odds are I'm going to have some lasting physical issues, but I'm excited more than anything. I'm making a tiny person that's half me and half the love of my life how cool is that. :y
Kinda wish people would stop telling me it's going to be the end of my life. Like, just because you don't want kids doesn't mean you've gotta rain on my parade. :,D