1) Why the hell is sex so important in society? I mean, I get that it's apparently really enjoyable to those who like it, but I'm always annoyed when I see characters in stories asking how someone satisfies him/herself or something when they admit to being a virgin or not having sex in a while. Is it really THAT necessary for non-aces?
2) Why do girls like yaoi so much (and boys like girl-on-girl)? Seriously, I'm mystified by the amount of fangirls squealing and creating entire groups dedicated solely to scanlating yaoi manga. Is it because two hot guys in a romance means twice the amount of hotties to squeal over? Actually, that's probably the reason. :/
Wait... According to your grandparents' logic, that means priests, monks and nuns are sinning by being celibate, right? Also, wouldn't Mary, the virgin mother of Jesus—emphasis on virgin—also be a sinner? At the very least Joseph would automatically be a sinner by that logic, seeing as since he didn't have sex with Mary, he was either also a virgin and thus sinning, or he committed adultery. Yeah, that kind of logic kinda backfires... :/
There's really no basis for Christianity to hate aces. Aces aren't consorting with the same sex on a sexual level, and I just did a little bit of searching and from what I can tell there's literally no reference to asexuality in the Bible, negative or otherwise. ...Actually, maybe that's why people are so against it? Since it's not mentioned in the Holy Book, they have no idea what to make of it. (On an unrelated note, it's really weird to talk about my own religion like an outsider. ._.)
Overall, though, I think the biggest hurdle for aces really is just proving we don't have a health-related reason for it. When I first started reading up on it, I noticed a lot of backlash seemed to come from the scientific community. Even then, though, it's not as noticeable as bible-thumping ape-people who practically have natural microphones and are probably in serious need of anger management classes. I think it's mostly just a curiosity in the science community.
I guess the romantic leanings also come into play, but that's where the diversity of sexual identity comes into play to make things needlessly complicated. At that point they'll just be sorted into the "devil-loving gay" group. :/ On that note, a few sites I checked had people saying that it was the act of gay sex that was evil, and that orientation itself is no problem. However, based on... well, every media story and press release by a Christian organization about homosexual relationships, I think that it's a matter of personal opinion (to put it lightly). But I just found it interesting and thought I'd share.
I'm not really complaining about my ace-ness. I know that relationships don't (or at least shouldn't) revolve around sex, and that if I ever get married, I'd want them to accept me for me. I'm a lucky person who is totally content with her identity, and I want any partner I have to accept all of that too.
Honestly, though, I doubt I'll ever get married. Even if I found someone who appreciated me and didn't care about the lack of sex, I just don't think I'm cut out for marriage. I need a ton of alone time, to the point where it's become a bit of a running joke in my house for me to cheer when my parents leave or go outside and then act disappointed when they come back. I don't think I'd be able to stand acting gushy and romantic 24/7, or even just for a couple hours a week... ^^; On the bright side, if my partner had a job with long hours, he wouldn't have to worry about me getting antsy and lonely.
On an semi-related note, I'm also surprised about the ratio of asexuals here. The stuff I read about asexuality suggested that it's really rare (something like 1% of all people), so I was surprised when I saw the first person who posted about being an ace. And then it was like there was a flood of aces... ._.
I find pansexuality and bisexuality tricky to differentiate, but I think the gist of it is that bisexuals are attracted to both female and male bodies, while pansexuals like someone for their personality over their bodies. At least, that's what I figure.
From what I've read, asexuals have it a lot easier than people who are gay or bi. Christianity doesn't really oppose it since it encourages people to save their virginity for marriage, and asexuals are more likely to adhere to that. The real problem is gaining acceptance that it's real. So many people assume that sex is a necessity of life; even when we studied Maslow's pyramid of needs during health last semester, sex was part of the bottom layer. I'm really puzzled by how hard it is to accept that it's a real orientation. I guess people just figure that since they like sex so much, it's just impossible for someone not to.
Also, it's hard to tell someone you're an ace when you're only eighteen. People tell me I'm just not sexually mature yet; my mother said she never thought about sex at my age. It doesn't help that I can be developmentally slow in some areas due to my Asperger's/ADHD combo. :/ However, when I first read about asexuality, something clicked in my brain and I knew that was it: I'm a biromantic ace. I always skip over sex scenes in books because it just doesn't interest me. I don't even like the idea of making out with tongues and everything. If I do read a romance story, I like it to never exceed plain old kissing. I'm an ace and I'm proud of it.
My biggest worry is about how it will affect any romantic relationships. TV, movies, books and comics make it seem like 90% of the male population just wants sex. I've always been worried about being pressured into it, and even if I'm not, any romantic partners I have may also want sex. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if I got married and my partner cheated on me because I didn't have sex with them. I'd be furious and hurt, but not surprised. :/
I also vote every ghost who speaks here because they're obviously Mafia and thus should die a second time. On that note, since you guys are here, want some s'mores? :3 *holds up purple blobs on sticks*
-vgamer was at the south side of the area
-Southpaw is slang for a left handed person
-Left is believed to be the hand of the devil
-The devil is evil and thus associated with the Mafia
Ergo, vgamer is Mafia!
...Yeah, not really the best logic. :/ You could use similar logic to accuse me since west is on the left side of a compass. :/ At this point, I really have no idea who to vote. All I know is that I'm me and thus not town. Seriously, the best way would be to figure out who's the guardian, but... hmm.
On that note, do people get messages about being guarded? Might help narrow down the list.
Alright, if the Mafia failed to kill, that probably means that either A) they forgot (totally believable, as I forgot I was the only Mafia left once), or B) the Guardian successfully defended against them. If it's the latter, then the Guardian knows who the Mafia is. Just putting it out there.
Pineapple, I can relate somewhat. I've had a crick in my back for a while now. Usually I can get rid of it by cracking my back over a chair or something, but this one was apparently in the one area that I can't crack. It was so bad that one night I actually went downstairs to ask my mom for advice on cracking it because it made it harder to sleep. I tried every stretch I could think of, to no avail. The next day one of my classmates offered to do a mini-massage, which was kind of embarrassing but it helped. But yeah, all in all, it sucked. :c It seems to have gone away, though, so that's nice.
Meanwhile, it's finally starting to hit me that this is my last week of school. After Wednesday, I'll leave the school forever. I remember the last time I walked out of my old school. I felt kind of empty, I guess? But my last year there had been absolutely awful, so it felt kind of good to leave. But this school is different. It's my home away from home. All my friends are so close to me, we all share a lot of interests, and... I'm scared. I'm worried I'll lose contact with them. I hate talking on the phone—hell, my parents got me a cell phone for my thirteenth birthday in an attempt to fix that—and I tend to lose interest in text conversations after a while, and I'm just awful about setting dates to meet with friends. I tend to see almost none of them over summer break unless they take the initiative, and... I'm just worried I'll lose contact with them. :c
If I recall correctly, last summer in driver's ed the teacher told us that the main reason they test parallel parking is because it's one of the only times the driving instructors can see you using reverse. He actually admitted that parallel parking really isn't used that often, or at least not in our area, since we live in a non-major city with a lot of suburbs and regular parking lots. On that note, I still haven't even gotten an hour of driving time. I'm super-hyper and can't sit still long enough; 50 hours also just seems way too intimidating. >_< I know I just have to schedule it out and do a little bit at a time, but I also have this severe paranoia about how I spend time, and one or two hours a week working on driving kind of sets off my paranoia. :/ I'm no where close to taking my driving test.
Also, vent: I think I have to scrap my entire novel so far and restart from scratch. I have five versions saved so far, none of which have even reached eight chapters—and that's not including the chapter-length sections I removed. I actually created a mini-folder just for those scrapped parts. :/ I think the first chapters are just too dead-endish to work with. >_> It's really annoying, because once the action gets going, it will be a huge rush. Still, though, it kind of sucks to lose all that time.
Well, you could send her a message to the effect of your vents (in a polite manner, of course).
Vent: we're writing senior speeches for graduation. We only have a minute thirty to give them, though. How can you sum up all those feelings in such little time? This school just means too much to me; I can't possibly thank everyone in such a short time.