snarkington:
Granted, your joke was preceded by my own tasteless joke. And my joke was preceded by Crackawindow's tasteless, and admittedly, much funnier joke. So I'll take partial blame for where the tone went.
But my unfunny joke came from a place of experience. That is--a joke about being awkward around my parents came from experiencing their inability to understand my sexuality. Your joke did not come from a place of experience because you weren't joking about you. Your joke involved both me and incest, and since you are not me there are places where that joke can go horribly awry. For instance, if I were a victim of incest. I'm not, but you have no way of knowing that, so it's best not to make the joke. Even beyond extreme cases like that, there may be things going on in my life that you're unaware of but would still make me vastly uncomfortable to hear things like that said about me.
I'm not trying to say anything about your attitude towards gay people, and I'm sure you're a great, accepting dude. I just feel like it's a good thing to think about what you say in a forum full of people you don't know. That said, I have nothing against dirty jokes and I don't mean to get all Serious McLecture on you.
STAY ON TOPIC, SNARK, WEBCOMICS
Ah, see, but there's the thing: If you have to think of every single joke you write with "is there absolutely any perspective that could find this offensive" in mind, than comedy would simply cease to be. It's true, there could have been some underlying information I don't know that would have caused the joke to go completely awry from your (or others, could be anyone) perspective, and had you said that it was over the line or sent me a PM telling me off, I would have apologized that it upset you because I'm a (relatively) decent person, or at least I try to be. However, the apology would be that I made the joke to
you, based on
your own experience, and not that I made a tasteless joke in general, if you catch my drift (I honestly don't know how well I'm getting my meaning across, I'm not quite as elegant as George Carlin in explaining this concept).
Basically, I've lost friends who were offended by jokes I've written or said (and gotten many a hatemail for the same), because they had problems with it due to their own experiences. Others found it funny,
I certainly got a chuckle out of it (otherwise I wouldn't have wrote/said it), and therefor it served it's purpose. While it sucks that people I care about were upset and I regret losing their friendship, I won't lie to them and say I regret the joke itself (or, in one case, promising I would never write another joke on that topic again).
I guess what I'm saying is, in one's comic or in any other comedic media, you can't write your material worrying that SOME people
may find it offensive. It's a creative rule-of-thumb I follow with everything I do. Some folks will like it, some will hate it, some will be offended, but as Bill Hicks once said: "So? Be offended. It won't kill you."
Though, given this situation, I do apologize if it went a little far (since it was fed by your post and not something from general reference). I'm admittedly pretty well known for not only never knowing where "the line" is, but frequently erasing said line and redrawing it (in bad, overly-thick lines) on the edge of the Cliffs of Bad Taste. Just let me know with a message or, y'know, a good swat on the nose with a magazine and I'm quick to catch the hint.
(Yay, I managed to both address the issue AND keep it comics-related! I AM THE MASTER OF MULTITASKING...er... posting?)