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4th Mar 2018, 12:30 AM #1
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I find the idea of running animated avatars through an approval process (as in, one done by mods not by some automated method) to be incredibly promising.

If the issue of animated avatars is having something which is too harmful on the eyes so to speak, then having moderator approval be required before it is uploaded would mitigate this--if a moderator approved an avatar and yet a user still has issue with the approved avatar, then this could always (as I suggested) be reported to the moderator, who could take action.

(If there is concern about people thinking it's not fair that their avatar was okayed by the mods originally and then later taken back, this is easily solved with clever enough wording when approving the avatar. I wouldn't have an exact idea of what that wording would be, but something along the lines of, "I will tentatively allow this, on the condition that I reserve the right to disallow it at a later date". That's probably not ideal, but it conveys the kind of thing I'm talking about.)

If the issue of animated avatars is that subtlety is too subjective, then the moderators approving it will work as a good initial point--there are many forum rules in place which are to some extent, subjective.

Included in our rules is "No insults, harassment, bigotry, slurs, or abuse. Be civil." What metric do we use to determine what insults/harassment/bigotry/slurs/abuse/civility are? There are some objective standards to use, but most of it is subjective; the mods are who determines what is, and is not, okay.
Included in those same rules is "Don't make pointless posts or threads." What metric do we use to determine what is a pointless post/thread? While there are some easy boundaries we can set, it is still largely subjective, determined by the mods.

When we feel a user has broken these rules in some way, we have the ability to report them to mods.

Animated avatars would be much the same: we can set a few general objective guidelines, but the exact specifics would be subjective, determined by mods. We can always report avatars. However, I find no issue with this, because this is something already part of the existing forum rules.

If the issue of animated avatars is that it increases the workload for moderators, then this is something that I imagine there would be reasonable workarounds for. (The easiest being increasing the size even if only ever so slightly of the moderator team.)

If the issue of animated avatars is the drama they cause...well I'm sorry to say that you're not going to have any more or less drama either way. Allow them and there's just as much drama as continuing to not allow them. It's hard to quantify "amount of drama" to be had, but I would wager that overall there'd actually be less drama if a way to integrate subtle animated avatars was successfully integrated into the site.

If the issue of animated avatars is that they are distracting, then this comes back to the point of making them subtle. (The only issue I can't solve is if subtle animation which even the user thinks is subtle is still to that user too distracting. If even the user thinks that the subtle animation they believe is subtle is too distracting, I don't have an answer for that.)

I am probably not even close to listing all of the issues with animated avatars.
But I believe that this approach for animated avatars genuinely holds promise as an acceptable compromise to both sides' desires.
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You have to keep in mind that I'm younger than most people would tend to guess.
You have to keep in mind also that I signed up for ComicFury a long time ago--eight years, going on nine, ago.
You have to keep in mind that when I signed up for ComicFury, then, by doing the math...

...That I was basically AT that age.

And literally every single comic on my profile is exactly this as a result.


Comic Battle Q evolved from doodles I did in classes I was bored in which eventually evolved into a comic I'd write on whiteboards, which eventually evolved into me writing it in classical MS Paint because that's what computers had. In spite of how atrociously bad it is, it was in fact my first attempt at a comic...and it is still something I want to continue. The idea behind it is continuous humorous battles with no real continuous plot, and to be freeform.

It's "remake", Stormy Fighters R (which I have worked out a reboot for), was a refined version which differed in path from the original: consistent art (via copy-paste), and actually featuring a continuous plot with more consistent characters better defined. (And later, better writing.) I never got to make it as I wanted because I had other projects to work on, but it was and still IS something I fully intend to make because I firmly believe it is something worth making, in spite of its lack of apparent quality to the naked eye right now.

The Other DN was essentially a fan comic for Artix Entertainment, specifically for DragonFable. It's probably one of the things I'd consider the highest in quality of all my comics I made. I specifically used an art style based around a sketch used in the DFDN much later, which was my boilerplate template for what the art in my comic should, more or less, look like--to this very day, it is probably the very best thing I have ever or will ever make using MS Paint; each page took something like six hours to make.

Earth was my first "webcomic which was never to be", more or less--it is ridiculously obscure and easy to forget having ever existed, because it essentially never did. It has one, two drawings of it. In spite of this, I have never stopped continuing to work on it behind the scenes, even knowing it is a comic I'll never actually make.

The reason is that it is a post-apocalyptic slice-of-life comic with one of the most elaborate, cool backstories I've ever made, detailing a world which is both simultaneously a utopia and yet also dystopia. It is incredibly ambitious a project. (Description in spoiler.) [spoiler]The backstory for the comic is more or less that humanity had expanded across the galaxy, but not as a unified species; they were fractured into hundreds of factions.

However, some overwhelmingly powerful alien threat appeared--superior in both technology and power, they began to push humanity back. While this did have the side-effect of by necessity unifying humanity, the cost was that humanity was fighting a losing war. They went from spanning endless numbers of star systems to a fraction of that.

They fought disproportionately well, and were closing the technology gap rather rapidly, and for every ship they lost they managed to take out ten (in spite of the ships they were up against being technologically superior), but they kept on losing ground, inch by inch. They took desperate measures to delay the inevitable, even making sacrifices such as blowing planets up.

Eventually, they were pushed back to our solar system, the last outpost of humanity, where bit by bit, over the course of years, they lost, but bought time for a final stand. Moons of Jupiter. Mars. Blowing up the Moon (which was populated) to create a radioactive asteroid belt surrounding the earth which delayed the inevitable homefront invasion even longer. They still were invaded all the same.

Humanity fought, poisoning the earth with technology which was damaging to the planet yet which was effective in the fight, because they had no other choice--eventually, all human life on the surface was still wiped out.

Humanity itself however survived in subterranean cities, thanks to a bit of a gambit which succeeded. All of their sacrifices were not in vain, because all that radiation and poison and so on and so forth helped to mask the existence of these refuges. Still, even with the aliens gone and believing humanity had been wiped out...they weren't exactly wrong to believe so.

Humanity was in a position where between factors such as radiation and sparse population, they predicted their own extinction, so in what they thought would be their final days, they worked on Uplifting the surviving life forms around the world. Any life which they thought could inherit their legacy.

...They succeeded. But all these numerous different species had one thing in common: they more or less saw humans as their gods, since humans were essentially their creators. They weren't fond of the idea of their gods dieing on them. So between a combination of artificial intelligence--numerous AIs in various computers--and the Uplifted animals of which there are no less than a dozen species, they worked out how to save humanity, and are working on rebuilding society.

In the resulting world, there's more or less a system in place where humans when they die are buried in such a way where their corpses give enriched nutrients to plants, which are harvested for herbivores and for their purifying effects, e.g. creating Oxygen. When Uplifted creatures die, their corpses are harvested for consumption by carnivores. Of different species than their own, as to avoid cannibalism.

There are multiple laws in place governing these species. For instance, while they are Uplifted to be intelligent, they are still primal animals, so it does occasionally happen that carnivores kill 'prey' animals, but do so without malice. The system differentiates between murder and instinct, more or less.

Humans serve as overseers, called 'Druids', of other species, who fulfill various different tasks necessary for the continued existence of all species on the broken, damaged Earth. AIs serve as coordinators, more or less calculating things.

Eugenics is part of the world, in that humanity's gene pool is both incredibly limited and also damaged; special care is necessary to be taken to ensure more or less that genetic diversity is increased and maintained and that genetic deformities are minimized. In that sense, all humans are required to be gene donors, but they are not required to be partnered with specific people.

Basically, the system respects both sexual and romantic orientation plus the factor that you can't control who you do and don't love. You're required to donate genes, but not to actually biologically produce offspring the natural way; it can be done artificially. That having been said, you're also allowed to produce offspring the natural way; there is no rule requiring it to be done artificially.

A further factor--AI will TRY to pair humans with people they think that they are compatible with in ways other than biology, i.e., like a super-advanced dating site of sorts, because they prefer for humans to have human companionship.

It's factors like this which are why I said both simultaneously a utopia and dystopia. There are a few factors which are good--equality is emphasized, there's no sexism or racism or homophobia or transphobia. (In fact, transitioning between genders is supported! Provided the proper measures are taken in the transition, as deemed by the world.) Sexual and romantic orientation are respected, and love is emphasized (even allowing for birth based on it), with care given to try and have it as much as possible. All good things.

At the same time, because humanity is literally an endangered species, the measures taken to continue the existence of the human race are the hallmarks of dystopias everywhere. The need for consumption of dead sentient life, the requirement for genes to be optimized, and so on and so forth.[/spoiler] All of that, just as the BACKSTORY. The slice-of-life part comes in, in that the series primarily follows one male Druid and the people he oversees, as they do their various tasks trying to rebuild the world. Also featured, an AI character, and his girlfriend, and all of the characters who she is an overseer of.

The two factors which kept me from making it were basically it was way too ambitious requiring way too much research and also the fact that I am not nearly a skilled enough artist to actually make it. Oh and while I worked out all of that backstory, I don't really have much in the way of skills in actually writing slice-of-life comics I've learned.

...Speaking of which, that takes me to my next slice-of-life comic:
College was a comic featuring seven characters at College age, inspired heavily by Questionable Content. Allen (named such because his parents named all their kids after writers, with his first name coming from Edgar Allen Poe), the main character, is the youngest of three siblings (the other two being two of the other characters; the oldest is a recent college graduate); his friend is a fourth character; his roommate a fifth, the friend of his sister (the middle sibling) being a sixth, and some girl he meets is a seventh.

All seven main characters would have seven critical traits, but with one trait emphasized above the others. Those traits were: Gaming (Allen's friend), (TV)Troping (the roommate), (Wiki)'Pediaing (the girl he meets), Studying (the sister's friend), Writing (Allen), and Working (his brother, the eldest sibling).

This comic was made back in the early days of those. For instance, there is a comic dedicated to "DEATH TO ALL SPOONS". This is a reference which you CAN get now on TVTropes, but back when the comic was made, SPOONS vs. FORKS was a big thing actively on the site. (I'm still bitter that overall the SPOONS won since my ideology was more in line with FORKS.)

That should date the comic quite well. Which also gives an idea for Wikipedia at the time--at the time the comic was created, there wasn't such a ridiculous focus on articles being notable, though it was a trend which was disappointingly taking control. (Which is one reason why TVTropes essentially copying Wikipedia's ideology is so disappointing because the whole freakin' POINT of TVTropes was supposed to be that they weren't The Other Wiki.) You could still at the time find, for instance, an individual page for a specific character in Bleach, as a subpage for the Characters subpage for the Bleach manga page. (Now they're rolled up into one.)

I actually scripted out about two, three dozen or so comics--the problem is, I LOST said script.

...Twice.

I wrote out a script more than once.

And lost it every time.

So that having happened, I lost a lot of my focus there.

Plus, this was a comic which took me a ridiculous amount of time to make artistically.

Still want to make it though.

While there are multiple other webcomics, notably the other one which is on a more definitive hiatus:
The Descended.

The world of Soano is second only to the Rubyverse in how ambitious it is. You could fairly state that what the Rubyverse is to superheroes/magical girls/empowered super teams/urban fantasy, Soano is for video games/tabletop RPGs/high fantasy. In that both represent the ultimate culmination of years' worth of work.

Soano, as I envisioned it, is a full-blown RPG Mechanics Verse, where I was building and designing seven classes (three base, three hybrids, then JOAT as all three) using eight base elements (with the ability to multi-element to two elements or use all eight, dubbed 'master').

You can actually spend hours navigating the site to read various material on it--some out of date, but a fair amount of it still canonical. The webcomic was meant not to just be the entirety of the world, but to be the launching point of numerous different materials (just like Red Hood Rider for the Rubyverse).

As in.

The webcomic wasn't meant to be the entirety.
It was just meant to be the starting point.
Prequels would be possible.
Sequels would be possible.
Writing a video game would be possible.

Running a tabletop RPG game using the World of Soano mechanics would be possible.

Even setting your own story in the World of Soano was meant to be possible--that's what I envisioned. Something which, when I had left my mark, others could take up the reigns. I'd establish a few set canon rules and characters and locations and the like, and leave others to make up what they wanted for their own purposes.

That's what The Descended is meant to be.

Unfortunately, The Descended suffers from multiple problems.
Reboot syndrome (at least once explicitly with a few more implicitly, with me outright planning to pull another before continuing the comic albeit with a noble enough purpose of establishing more consistency), combined with NO LESS THAN THREE times where I lost my script for it.

I've still got a fair idea of the most important plot points because I memorized the characters. But I had built an exact timeline for how things unfolded, start to finish; I lost that, and without it, I don't have an idea for when the things I know happen, happen, exactly.

Still.

I want to make it.

But I also want to make Red Hood Rider first.

Even though that's something I'm continuing to struggle with.
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Super Oliver:So if you had to pick the coolest person on CF to you who would they be?
Easy answer, obv.

Kyo.

Wouldn't have ComicFury if not for the dude, that instantly gives coolest person on CF points because literally every single awesome thing about ComicFury is because of Kyo and thus it is fair to say literally every awesome thing about ComicFury IS Kyo. :P

But furthermore, there's also what he does that other site admins don't. He has a level of integrity (for instance, not having sold the site in spite of multiple lucrative offers), and he is actively invested in the site, constantly working and toiling to improve our experience. And he does so more or less solo, too.

Other sites which work tirelessly to improve themselves often have a whole team of coders--he is just one person doing all of that work by himself more or less. (He might occasionally get help? But pretty much most of what we see was him.)

Plus, aside from all the awesome amazing work he does behind the scenes, he is active in the forum community. He looks constantly at suggestions/problems, fixing things and implementing them if he can. And he also dabbles in the layout section from time to time. How many sites can have a user say they had the site admin personally help them with code for their comic?

More than on the technical side, he is also occasionally spotted elsewhere around the forums, too, albeit infrequently.

He does all of this and more, in spite of him having a full-fledged life outside of ComicFury and from my understanding him operating CF at a rather significant personal loss? (Could be mistaken there.) Can't get much better than that.
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3rd Mar 2018, 10:39 PM #4
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Welcome to the "we left and came back" club! (I'm a charter member. >_> <_<)

I always did enjoy your comic. <3
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3rd Mar 2018, 10:38 PM #5
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PrincessWolf:Oh, my trouble is I think: "That's a great thread! I should reply to it . . . . . . later!
I have this trouble for comics!

...Except it's usually even worse when I do decide to reply to it, because then I spend half an hour on something I thought would take me thirty seconds. :P
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If it makes you feel better, it took me...god how long was it...at least five years before I made my intro thread.
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Failure is just not succeeding in the way you intended.
You take lessons and experience from the time spent along with potentially some kind of unintended product which still serves a really useful (even if not originally envisioned) purpose.

For every success the stars of the world have, they suffered hundreds of failures--we only remember them because they kept going and didn't give up after their first try didn't do what they wanted.
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If mythological animals aren't off-limits, small chance of half-dragon, large chance of half-phoenix.

If I had to choose from a more terrestrial choice in animal though, I'd probably select a Corvid. (Raven/Crow.) It's a tough choice admittedly given as how I identify with many, many animals, but overall I think that'd be my choice.
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I actually dabble in music so I HAVE a band name!

It's called "Untalented Stupid Young Fool". :P
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I live in Western Washington.
Water falling from the sky's a daily occurrence.

Far more concerning is what that great ball of fire is in the sky.

What is it and what is it doing there, should I be concerned?
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Didn't see a thread about this so I figured I'd start one of my own!

So, anyone else going?

I'm only going for one day (Friday, March 2nd), but it's something I'll be doing this year!
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27th Feb 2018, 3:17 AM #13
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If there is a way for users to report avatars they feel are "too flashy" and this way is made widely known and readily available, then I'm willing to take the risk on allowing them. Some animated avatars can help enhance multiple aspects of a user's forum presence: their persona, their ability to advertise for their comic in avatar form (by showing multiple images from it rather than just one), etc.

I understand the desire to not have more 'obnoxious' ones--and in fact I agree with that sentiment. But I also have found that some of my favorite avatars on other sites HAVE been animated ones, when well-done.
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I always feel so bad that your comic is SO good and is one I enjoy SO much and yet I keep on falling behind on it even though it should be easy enough to get caught up. It's nice to finally see you get to be who you want to be; someday, I hope to join that club. <3

(I mean I'm out to people online obviously, have been for just about exactly four years so it's easy to forget, but I can count on a single hand the people I've met in the meatworld who know the truth. And one's a member of ComicFury.)
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Fishy:Congratz! Welcome to the trans CFer gang
We have a "trans CFer gang" what why did I not know of this :P

More seriously, I'd say you rock that look in your avatar, Freja. Good to see you around. <3
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EDIT: WELP SO MUCH FOR HALF OF MY POST.

But this half still applies:
keltyzoid!:i dunno. i worked 12 hours yesterday and 7 hours today and never got a break either time, so i don't think they're too concerned with the law.
This is something I'd also think can be reported, because it is in fact HIGHLY illegal for them to be forcing that.

Companies can get away with all kinds of stuff if nobody calls them out on it--but once they ARE called out on it, they get in REALLY Big Trouble and the person calling them out on it is often awarded compensation high enough such that they will think twice before attempting to screw employees over.

But someone has to start the process because if nobody does, then the company continues to get away with the stunts they pull.

I mean, you don't have to be altruistic in motives (calling them out so that others don't face what you do), but there seems to be plenty of personal reasons for doing it, namely, that taking care of yourself should be a priority and if the job you are working is ILLEGALLY hurting you by not allowing you to do so, then call them out on doing something that illegal until they drop it.
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So the origin of my username can be traced back to a combination of sources: Majesty, AdventureQuest, and Power Rangers. All featured even in the early-naughties (a) Ranger(s). (AdventureQuest had a single Ranger, Robina, who I identified with very strongly. Not that I knew why until much later, but still. Rangers are one of my favorite heroes in Majesty. And I grew up on the first ten seasons of Power Rangers so they were my childhood.)

When I needed an email for a game, it was thus, obviously, Ranger_my name.

...Except I botched my first attempt.

Thus, my two Ranger usernames were born:
ranger_brianna_new (as in, new one which I didn't mess up),
And Ranger_Brianna2, often shortened to RangerB2.

You have to keep in mind this was over ten years ago and I was just a kid.

It's stuck ever since then though.
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I read a ComicFury thread which had a single line in it.

And suddenly...

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I think this is a dairy good change for you!
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One thing which helped me in life was a shift in perspective. It's not exactly original, can sometimes even be seen as cliched, and I know from extensive experience it's not a perfect fix, but...it can still help to think of things in a different way--

That a failure isn't so much a failure, as it is not succeeding in the intended way. Often, we don't realize this but what we'd traditionally call failures are either successes in ways we weren't intending...or open the door to success which would not have been possible without the 'failure' having happened first.

I'm going to do something I've never done outside of one remote forgettable time on the strudel: tell you my age. Because it's relevant to the topic at hand. I'm [spoiler]24[/spoiler] years old. I'm at the age where people expect me to have succeeded. I'm at the age where even if people haven't expected me to succeed they expect me to at least know what direction I am headed.

Yet I don't.

I failed art in college, hardcore.
I almost failed CAD in college, passing through a technicality. (I had C- as my overall grade more or less and only passed because of a grandfather clause of when I had begun.) It took me five+ years to get a two-year degree, and it's not even a proper Bachelor's; it's an Associate's. (My understanding is that Bachelor degrees are better.) In Technical Arts, even.

And in spite of having graduated college nearly three years ago (spring of 2015--do the math on my age and you'll also realize why that means I graduated from college at a much later age than is typical), I've yet to actually have a job in the field. Not for lack of trying, either.

What I'm getting at with this is that I haven't gotten that great career. I haven't gotten those things. I haven't gone that far...even though I am at the age where it is expected of me to have gotten those things. Even though I am old enough where people should think I've done those things...I haven't.

And if I haven't done them...then that's proof enough that there's no obligation for you to have done them, either. You have so many chances to live life. You'll never know if you could do any good if you remove your chance for it. You'll never know if you can make a difference if you die. What would the world be like if, say, Einstein had given up on life because he was initially slow? (Probably not the BEST example, but first which came to mind.)

You can keep going. It's not easy. It kinda sucks. It's difficult. And you still will feel like you've failed more often than not. But you never know until you have tried what you can do. And if you try and then fail...you still never know until you keep trying. And if you still keep trying and still keep failing...you still never know.

The conclusion is never inevitable. Failure is a given...but what we do with the failure is not.
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